Monday, May 6, 2019

Listen, Don't Judge

Depression is getting more and more common these days. Considering that it's a modern illness which may strike us at any point of life. I'm a doctor and I do encounter patients with depression. The stem of it?  Be it family issues, job, relationship, debilitating diseases, the list is never ending. Why are we seeing many cases of depression these days?  All thanks to the awareness which more and more people are having. The act of seeking help before things just got worse it's just an initial stepping stone if one has a true full blown depression. Many people perceive that Depression and Sadness are of the same. Yes, I do agree that people with depression has got sadness in them. Neglect this and a depressed person will end up in suicide.

Treatment isn't just mainstream these days. Not forgetting the side effects of antidepressant, one just won't end up being compliant to the treatment, or maybe just won't take their meds. Some may just sail through without medications. Group therapy,  good social support and conducive environment can guide a depressed person through a medicine free period before they are able to function. I can't deny that some antidepressants cause suicidal thoughts, one example would be Luvox. If possible, social support has to be good as to avoid untoward circumstances.

OK,  now the patient is ready to be released to the community. Next thing will be the stigma. Getting back to work after a period of medical leave for depression is another concern. How many of us actually accepts our colleagues for who they are,  without stigmatization?  Recently, a colleague of mine just came back from her leave due to depression.  Sad to say that she was being stigmatized by her own colleagues, whom they call themselves the "healthcare professionals". It's an "indirect killing" which they actually exert on someone. She was being judged for having depression, scolded by her superiors for being slow. How much help can we offer?  Are we actually doing more damage than repair? 

Sadly, one day I found out that she eventually committed suicide as she was constantly blaming herself for being useless. All she needed from the start is a good listener,  a shoulder to cry on. How many of us actually offered that to her?  When you encounter depressed individuals, please,  listen and don't ever judge!  

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Friday, July 8, 2011

Learning


Learning is a part of the parcel of our lives. Wherever we are, at any time, and every moment of our lives, we encounter the art of learning. Since the day we were brought to this world, we learn and develop till this level of our lives, but it does not just end here, it is continuous and it is an ever growing process with no boundaries. In the aspect of psychology, learning is defined as the process of acquiring experiences with the aid of external stimuli and environmental factors and will be stored in our body in the form of memory, like computer stores information of keyed in data. Likewise, learning not necessarily needs to be acquired from books or other reading resources, but rather can be gained from environment, experience, vision, hearing, taste, pain, touch and many other external resources. As human development progress further, learning can also be further acquired from several ways, as long as something good and beneficial is gained from it.
Experience consists of knowledge or skill in observation of something or some event which is gained through involvement or directly exposed to that thing or event. Experience is one of the most important parts of learning. For instance, fresh graduates without experience possess lower working performance than those existing senior workers in a workplace. This is because senior workers have more experience on their job compared to those fresh graduates. That is why experienced workers are the preferred choice of hiring than fresh graduates in job prospects. Medical professionals such as doctors, pharmacist, and medical scientists require lots and lots of experiences despite their heavy workload and handling patient’s life. Doctors are the individuals whose health of the patient relies on them in major context. In medical schools, theory and books are the major parts of their education. Medical students are required to pass their exams in order to obtain a medical degree which allows them to practice as a qualified doctor. It may seem like a studying honeymoon in medical universities, but that will change as medical graduates encounter working life in hospitals. In hospitals, they will be exposed to real-life patients and experiences with various kinds of diseases, besides challenges in social environment. Pharmacists are the individuals with high responsibility to educate the community in drug intake and the proper usage of drugs at appropriate doses. In pharmaceutical schools, students were educated using books, lectures and laboratory experiments. They were only taught on how to study and memorize names of drugs and its uses. In hospital and pharmaceutical industries, these students will further learn on new drugs, latest diagnosis and exposed to research in producing new drugs. In food industries, individuals such as hawkers and professional chefs, with more experiences, these individuals will explore further on ways to improvise food quality and preparation to meet customers’ needs by improving on taste and service. Business professionals learn through experiences of failure and bankruptcy. Some even acquire experience from senior business professionals. They will also learn via environment; those who venture to the overseas will encounter challenges of language, status, citizenship and etc whereas local business people encounter local challenges like financial mishaps. Furthermore, in the fields of education, teachers also encounter the process of learning, besides educating learners. Junior teachers have lesser experiences than senior teachers. This is because their education is only limited to what they have learnt in teaching colleges. The senior teachers often encounter different kinds of students; some lazy, smart, weak, slow, etc. Consequently, their teaching methods will be improvised year by year through new experiences.

Nevertheless, most of us believe, ‘what you see is what you learn’. Vision has an impact on learning. Infants and children learn through what they observe everyday of their lives. In the process of human development, the infant stage is the stage where the learning through vision is more effective rather than the later years. In the nursery schools, when a child sees the other individuals of their age doing something, like playing at a swing, they will indirectly be influenced by what they see. When the others laugh, they laugh. School-going children learn through teacher’s guidance. For instance, a beautiful portrait of a flower vase is displayed in front of the class, children will be awed by what they see and then try their levels best to draw the similar portrait. Television also has an influence in a child’s process of learning. Cartoon characters and action movies will indirectly educate a child by their actions. Whether it is a good or a bad influence, it strongly depends on how a child perceives it. Adult also learn through vision. A photographer or an environmentalist observes the environment; the changes, color, and climate is the aspects they might look for. A photographer gains experience by learning different kinds of ways of taking photographs with proper angles, resolution and styles. On the other hand, the environmentalist observe changes in the environment, such as pollution caused by human activities and other factors causing side effects on the environment, and thus implement new ways to protect the environment. A chemist observes colors of chemical reactions learn to recognize chemicals by their colors in some cases. If the experiment does not turn out the way it is supposed to be, they would not repeat the faulty steps in the experiment again until what they see in the result satisfy their needs. Another group of individuals which uses vision to learn is the sports people. The coach guides a sportsperson on strategies and methods to tackle a game. The learner or player then learns by observing the coach to improve their gaming performance for the better.

Another way of learning is via audio or listening. It cannot be denied that hearing is one of the best methods of learning. In the early stage of human development, like the infant uses this method to learn. For example, our parents taught us how to speak, and slowly we were able to say ‘Mom’ or ‘Dad’ and then further improved by mastering our mother tongue languages. As the infant grows, they will start to learn to sing especially nursery schools when the music is played and the children sing along with the song. Adolescents and young adults, especially school going children and college students acquire learning effectively through listening. Students listen attentively when attending classes, lectures and practical classes where the educator delivers information to their fellow students. Students need to be able to listen attentively to enhance the effectiveness of their learning; hence the information given out will be absorbed better and stored longer in their memory. It is believed that 70% of the knowledge of a student is gained from classroom and the remaining 30% is further gain when they re-study the classroom materials at home. Students who do not attend lecture will miss the golden opportunity of learning, and therefore bid farewell to the 70% of knowledge! Therefore, to be a good student, listening skills in classroom has to be enhanced. Not to be neglected, the public too, can learn by attending talks or seminars given by professionals. They learn by listening attentively to talks and seminars and then utilize the knowledge gain to be practiced in their daily lives. Public talks like awareness campaign, health talks, educational seminars and motivational talks will do a good deed to the public.

It was said that animals have better taste buds and sense of smell than humans. Generally, taste and smell have an impact on our learning process. For example when you have eaten something like a spoiled food, you would not continue eating that food even though that food might cost you a day’s meal. Eating an orange which is sour will cause us to not eat it, but when it is sweet, we would end up eating up all the oranges, or purchase even more of it! When you cook a new dish, for the first time, it might not turn out too well; with some defects. So, the next time when you attempt to cook the dish again you would try to improvise on it, making it taste better, perhaps, adding a little spice into it to enhance the taste. Professionals such as nutritionist, food technologist and dietitians require more experience in food preparation, in other words, they must possess good sense of smell and taste. They will attempt several steps to reduce ingredients that will cause health hazards such as oil, sugar, salt, animal fats, etc. Laboratory technicians will easily recognize abnormal smells in a laboratory, but a new technician might not be exposed to this and will perceive that the smell is normal. Moreover, a famous Russian physiologist, Ivan Pavlov conducted a test on dogs to determine the process of learning using classical conditioning method. He placed two stimuli which are a bell and a plate of dog food. The dogs were trained so that the bell resembles that the food is served. As he rang the bell, the dog started salivating, compared to another dog which is not trained to recognize the meaning of the bell. In the police force, sniff dogs were useful to detect drugs held by drug traffickers. They were trained over and over again to recognize the smell of drug as bad and response to the smell by barking extensively towards the smell. Undertrained dogs might not respond to this smell because they were not exposed to the smell and consequences.

Many of us hold to the principle which says that ‘No pain, no gain’. This principle is related to the learning through pain. Without any pain, they would not be any learning. What is pain actually? In a more scientific term, pain reaction occurs when the receptor which is the skin touches unfavorable conditions like the hot object ( hot boiling kettle), which then sends impulse via afferent nerve to the central nervous system to be process and perceived by our brain. From the central nervous system, impulse is sent back via the efferent nerve back to the receptor. Consequently, our hand is pulled back from the hot kettle. This is because the message stored in our brain tells us to touch the hot kettle again. At early development of humans, infant tend to have lesser experience than adults. At later stages we will learn to walk. That is where we encounter pain from falling down and then try many other methods to walk by holding to furniture or get a helping hand from our caregivers. Children often being punished for doing something that they are not supposed to do. As a consequence, they might be caned by their caregivers. From this they will learn to improve and not to repeat the same mistakes again. There were also other forms of pain besides physical pain. Psychological pain which affects us mentally may educate us indirectly. For instance, a person suffering from financial problems would not want to suffer from this for too long. At a certain period of time, they will begin working out ways tom improve on their living qualities. Some worked out smoothly, some not, depends on the individuals’ willpower. People suffering from family and relationship problems, which may cause them a struggle to get together and to reunite. They will have to learn to understand each other better and to think positively, where they might have to give and take when necessary. The pain of losing your loved one is another form of pain. Orphans, who lost their parents when they were young, will have to face difficulties learning to stand on their own feet, besides gaining external social, financial and moral support. Death of a spouse can leave a sense of emptiness; therefore, we must learn to curb that emptiness and accept the death, perhaps, finding a new partner in life. Apart of that, an artistic person learns through touching and appreciates arts through touches. In the art gallery, an artistic person can easily recognize fine arts by touching several carvings, drawing and etc. However, individuals with visual impairment have no sense of vision, and so indirectly their sense of touch and feel increases. They are able to recognize surrounding objects by just touching them.

Learning can be acquired from books, but it is not as effective as learning through experiences and senses. It is just words and illustrations in books which delivers the message to the reader. There were individuals who practice self studying. These individuals’ reads directly on books without knowing the exact information on how true is the statement written by the book author. They have no proper experience on what is stated in the book, but rather gobbling everything which is stated by the book without proper understanding and without proper author-reader interaction. Meanwhile, a storybook which is one of the very popular reading material read by most of us, tells stories, imaginations and experiences of the author. It may be purely fictional or non-fictional. This may even lead to misunderstanding of the reader towards the content of the storybook. As a result we might not gain that much by just burying ourselves under hills of storybooks. At the same time, medical professionals are a group of individuals which their workplace does not only emphasize fully on books but rather hands on experiences. In medical schools, students will emphasize more on theory and laboratory practices. Some even utilize dummies for training! Dummies are useful at the beginning but it will be no longer useful as medical grads step into the working environment. These non-living materials does not possess properties of living things such as heartbeat, blood flow, feeling and etc. In real life exposure, medical grads will deal with many types of patients with various needs. In medical colleges, reading materials such as atlas, encyclopedias and other medical books are primary sources of information for medical studies. These books focus mainly on illustrations and might not be the same as the real visual experiences. This will lead to misunderstanding of knowledge. For example, anatomical atlases illustrates drawings of human body parts, vessels, nerves and etc. It would not be the same as studying on a real human body, where the parts might be slightly altered in shape. Besides that, books may provide source of sharing information from the author to the reader. For example, a journal of a famous leader sharing their life experiences. Not all information is shared. Some might be forgotten at the time of writing the journal. In mathematics revision books, the author might have different understanding on some mathematical equation. It was believed that different people have different mindsets. Different people have different ways of solving mathematical equation. Some might clash with your own understanding of a specific mathematical formula. The side effects of learning through books are people cannot think out of the box. With no environmental exposure, we cannot possible imagine the content of a book written by the author which will lead to defect in understanding of the content. We cannot see what the author have seen or imagined, we cannot feel the feelings of what the author is trying to describe, and we cannot taste the described content like in recipe books describing how tasty a food is. Therefore, without experience and without stimulus, where will be no learning. In other words, ‘action speaks louder than words’, reading a book without action, only whispers to the reader; whether it is heard or unheard, it strongly depends on the reader.

On the whole, learning should not be limited just to books only, but rather hands on and ‘hearts on’ experiences. This is important to promote effective learning. Likewise, it is crucial to learn through experiences based on our own senses rather than obligating ourselves on books. Even the greatest book in the world written by a renowned author cannot really educate and enhance a person’s reading process and cannot deliver a proper message to its reader. So, learn hard, learn smart!

Strict Rules on Children


We learn most of our learning skills during early childhood, whether it is speaking, walking or using fork and spoon to eat, it is more than 50% inculcated in ourselves. Moreover, in order to learn, we need the freedom to learn. What is freedom? It is the right to do whatever you love without anyone stopping you, but little much do we know that in everything we do, a limit must be set somehow.




In countries like India, children were told and trained since young to obey every command of their parents; when commands are disobeyed, children will have to pay a price for it. However, there are some exceptions to the rule whereby a child at the age of seven are allowed to work, some even had tedious jobs such as shipping large and heavy loads from one place to another. Overall the rules and accepted behaviours are determined according to traditions and customs. To us, we might presume that such rules are against human rights, but to them, it is their rights to do so.
In some schools, children are told to remain quiet so that they will not distract the other pupils in class and it is impolite to ask questions during lessons. With minimal interactions between learner and educator, how can learning be efficient? Moreover, there were schools whereby girls are not allowed to interact with boys. This will inculcate the phobia amongst them to when they step out of the school gate into the society where females living along with males.




The advantage of implementing strict rules among children is so that they will be more disciplined. I believe that when we develop good discipline since young, it will indirectly be a habit to us to practice it when we are older. By having strict rules, children will be able to differentiate right from wrong. Furthermore, children nowadays are actively exposed to electronic media whereby commercials such as cigarette advertisements caused children as young as 3 years old to develop smoking habits. Advertisement on alcoholic beverages will influence children on the urge to savour liquors. This contributes to the increase in the number of school going children having liver diseases. In terms of entertainment industries, explicit movies featuring sexual conduct and action packed movies will influence children to give a go on the action. In action packed movies, the use of weapon and skills of fighting will influence children in the misuse of firearms.
At times, strict rules do not really work well on children. For instance, children tend to do something opposite to the norms and rules. They presume that they are always right without considering the risks of their actions. Kids misbehave or being harmed by taking risks themselves due to unawareness of dangers. Consequently, they harm themselves and their surroundings. Children have the rights to exercise their freewill and develop own pattern of behaviours. They should be given the chance to encounter the consequences and not being limited by rules. Without pain, where can there be a gain?


In conclusion, children naturally have the ability to defend opinions. Thus, as adults, we should provide good advices to guide children towards appropriate perceptions. This should primarily be done by parents by laying down appropriate rules and then taking responsibilities to ensure their children obey them. So, implementation of strict rules should be the last option to give the freedom to children to expose themselves to self experience and education. Personally, I believe, parents are their best teachers!

Masterpiece of Park Seo Jin

Thursday, February 24, 2011

new week, new resolution

final exam is finally over.. it has been a long time since i last updated my bloggie.. hahaha.. yea.. starting fresh this week with semester 2.. currently working on my thesis 39.5e.. supposed to submit by today, i guess i might give it a submission by next week instead.

listening to korean songs most of the time might be something NOT NEW, but it seems that i've developed a new hobby that is SWIMMING! wooo.. wooo.. need to replenish my health at the moment as it's kinda deteriorating with my thick blood problem n lactose intolerance. right now, i'm reading an interesting book on POST MORTEM.. my usual habit la of exploring.. got an email from Dr. A. Philip.. next research is on CRIMINAL PSYCHOLOGY.. guess i gotta read more gazetas.

got kinda mad with the guard this morning.. one fucked up lady accusing me of ID TERBALIK.. wat's the matter la? has she got out of her mind? this might be the 5th time i actually fought with her.. dunno when the time i might actually lay my hands on her. hmmmm.. when r??

ok.. gotta go now. that's all i could say.. i'll update more health issues on this blog soon... dasvidaniya!

Sunday, February 6, 2011

Final Exam and Face-Book-Ing

I'm finally blogging again.. hahaha.. finals coming soon, so i might not be able to update my bloggie for quite some time.. i hv many things to share with all of u.. mostly health related issues la.. hurrrmmm... i'll post it here A S A P... bukan asap.. as soon as possible.. :p

Valentine this yr? nahhhh.. nothing's gonna happen... got something la. FINAL EXAM... worries me at times, but i'm just gonna comfort myself.. preparing to give my maximal push towards my finals... yeah.. semangat yeah! hehehe...

Facebook also bye bye lio la... pray hard for me kkk... wish me luck lol~ that's all i can say.. gotta go now.. need to get enuf rest for my journey back to uni tomorrow.. gambateh Seo Jin!!

How Can I?

듣지 말았어야 할 얘기
오늘 하루쯤은
잊고 나와도 좋았을 전화
말문이 막히는 얘기
어차피 내 마음은 상관 없는 얘기

어떻게 너를 잊을까
잊으려고 애를 써볼까
다시 돌아갈 순 없을까
아무 말도 꺼낼 수가 없었던
우리 마지막 얘기

사랑한다 말을 했을 땐
넌 멈춰버렸고
난 가슴이 터질 듯 했는데
지금 난 멈춰버리고
네 다음 얘기를 기다릴 뿐야

어떻게 너를 잊을까
잊으려고 애를 써볼까
다시 돌아갈 순 없을까
어떻게도 아프기만 한 얘기
그만하자는 얘기

멈출 수만 있다면
지울 수만 있다면
다시 돌아간다면
처음 만난 그 날로

어떻게 너를 잊을까
잊으려고 애를 써볼까
다시 돌아갈 순 없을까
입을 막은 채로 눈물 흘리는
믿기 싫은 이야기

어떻게 너를 잊을까
잊으려고 애를 써볼까
다시 돌아갈 순 없을까
여전히 널 사랑하기 때문에
꿈에서라도 믿기 싫은 이야기


Words, I shouldn’t have heard
My phone which I should’ve just forgotten to bring.
Words that makes me at a loss for words.
Words, that don’t care about how I feel.

How can I forget you?
Should I put an effort to try and forget you?
will we ever be able to go back to what we had?
Last words which made us both at a loss for words.

When I would tell you that I loved you
You would stop, and my heart would feel like it was exploding.
I have stopped and.
I’m simply waiting for your next words.

How can I forget you?
Should I put an effort to try and forget you?
will we ever be able to go back to what we had
Words that hurts no matter what
Words of Goodbye.

If only time could stop.
If only we could erase.
If only we could go back in time,
To the day when we first met.

How can I forget you?
Should I put an effort to try and forget you?
will we ever be able to go back to what we had
My words are frozen, tears keep flowing, words which I don’t want to believe.

How can I forget you?
Should I put an effort to try and forget you?
will we ever be able to go back to what we ha
Even when I dream, I don’t want to believe those words. Because I love you.